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can someone help me please and put my mind to rest. i have agreed to sell my car to a man in scotland over the phone. he has booked and paid for his flight to birmingham next week. i am due to meet him there and take him to my bank to put the money in there and then. he will then drive home. i am having second thoughts about this, he knows i feel uneasy with this arrangement but i agreed. i think he is selling the car on as says he is a dealer and does this all the time. i now dont want to sell my car to him or anyone else. i know i have messed him about and and feel very silly and sorry. i am going to write him a letter telling him that and enclosing a cheque for his flight. i have his phone number but to be honest, i have not got the guts to tell him over the phone. he as my address and number. the last thing i want is things to turn nasty. have i covered myself? can he sue? many thanks.
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If you cancel the sale he'll expect, reasonably, that you pay for his flight.
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Is it that you don't want to sell the car. Or that you are nervous of the selling process?
TBH this sort of thing (buyer travelling long distance) is not that unusual. I have sold a couple of cars to people well over 100 miles away and also to someone from the Irish Republic. When I advertise a car on Ebay I state that I can collect a buyer from either of my two local airports.
If you are nervous about the process itself then could you arrange for someone to accompany you during the sale and collection?
If you simply now want to keep your car then he'll expect compensation.
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Do you want to pull out because you are uneasy ? Would you be more comfortable if you took a friend with you to collect him ?
I have bought cars like this. I sold a porsche 911 like this. not had any problems.
I once bought a car by turning up in scotland and arranging a bank transfer over the phone there and then. (Im not a trader btw)
If you have just changed your mind I think you need to ring him asap. He may have a buyer lined up or already arranged an advert.
If you write to him it may take a couple of days and that leaves him with no time to alter any plans.
He may have arranged for someone to cover his office etc. I think it would be rude not let him know the situation as soon as possible. If you were buying a car, and had arranged insurance booked a flight and then got a letter saying the seller had changed their mind the day before you collected would you be happy? I wouldnt.
If you have no contract then I suppose you have no obligation to sell, but paying for the ticket would be reasonable imo.
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many thanks. i am uneasy about selling the to him and i no longer wish to sell to anyone. had a bad experience before selling a car unseen. i am happy to send him his costs asap. i am very worried about phoning him, i could not take any abuse i am likely to get. i had a breakdown last year.
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He is likely to be even more abusive if you say nothing;I certainly would!!
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you need to ring him soonest - if you cannot face doing that, suggest you ask a reliable friend to make the call for you - and you need to be there at the time so the "buyer" can verify the call is genuine.
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I suggest politely that your breakdown is not yet over. Please seek professional help.
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You need to calm down, take a deep breath and think slowly.
Have you truly decided that you do not wish to sell the car at all, or is it that you rnervousness over this transaction is colouring your thinking ? When this situation has gone away will you then decide that you wish to sell the car again ?
If you're sure that you defintiely do not wish to sell the car and that it is important to you not to do so, then you need to let him know. A letter is not going to work - either from a reliability or timing perspective. Its best that you call him, you;ll feel better afterwards for having faced it, but if neccessary ask someone else to ring him. If you write to him, or even text hin, the first thing he'll do is call you which will defeat your objective.
Th ebest thing you can do is ring him an dapologise and tell him you do nto wish to sell the car. If that's too difficult and you don't know what to tell him, then tell him you crashed the vehicle. It might not be nice to lie to him, but better that than nothing.
If its this transaction that's bothering you then I;d advise you to find a way of carrying it through. At least this ttransaction is all but done so you're already over some of the stress hurdle. Tell him you'll meet him at the airport. Take a mate with you to bring you home and support you throguh the transaction and then go for it.
Tempting though it is, virtualllly any situation will get worse if you ignore it or try to avoid it.
And if this is genuinely how you feel, then you should not feel silly. Silly is what you would be if you are making this up not if you are hinestly having difficulty with it. Feeling silly will start you trying to supress or deny your feelings, as perhaps you know, tends to drive you towards a breakdown more than making the feelings go away.
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thank you all for you support. i think its this man i dont want to sell the car to, and all the problems that goes with it. i was not to bothered about selling the car anyway as we go back a long way and it means more to me than money. i like the " i have crashed the car" bit. i think i would be a lot happier telling him that over the phone than the real reason, and send him a cheque with my apologies. i know its a lie, but i honestly would feel a lot better than telling him a have changed my mind.
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Let us hope he does not read this site.
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Before you decide to tell a lie you must ask yourself if you are confident enough convince him over the phone because he will suspect that you have just changed your mind and will possibly be angry in any case.
Considering your position and history I would think it best just to tell the truth, he may just curse you and call you a few names which I can not post here but then it will be all over, less of course compensation for his expenses.
But you must do this ASAP.
Do let us know how you get on.
Mal.
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